- Are you asian?
- I love asians
- Where you from? China? Thailand? Philipines?
- I bet you are Thai/Viet/(insert other asian country)
- My ex is asian
- Asians are so hot
First, if we just met I don't give a damn that your ex lover is asian, that you are into asian women and what your personal opinion toward asians. Second, I am a person. I am much more than my race. Yes I love white rice, cheap stuffs, korean cosmetics, and rilakkuma but I also like Starbucks, I don't know American Apparel, etc. Everyone regardless of their race has their own personal interests, likes and dislikes and feelings. I would be much more appreciative when a guy actually thinks I'm cool because I like George Costanza from Seinfeld, or that I study abroad million miles away from home to travel and basically finding out what I want in life than a guy who only could see my outter characteristic.
Also it's so annoying when you try to guess which country I am from. Maybe this is personal, maybe other people like when people guessed their nationality, I don't know. But take last monday when I went to this bar and a guy told me that I must be from Thailand and insist that I am Thai even though I said No repeatedly. Why the need to know my nationality? I need a valid visa to talk to you?
Of course most time people just ask the question because being a foreigner in Germany, right? And some people genuinely wanna know to start a conversation etc and that's totally fine. But if you're being all gigly and naming countries in front of me, I just wanna punch your face.
I really appreciate it if someone I'm talking to know something about my country, like "aaah Kopi Luwak, right?" or I don't know some random word in Bahasa Indonesia. I think it's so cool to appreciate other cultures and cool when people actually know about mine. But then again, if you act like you know my country because you watch CNN or whatever more than I do, but you also never even been to Asian, I think you should just be more careful of how you articulate your opinion. I mean you should always anyway, no matter what the contex. Yes praise Lord hallelujah for Freedom of Speech but I think that shoudn't be over-exploited into talking shits and hurting others' feelings. Have some human decency.